The Victoriously Made Journal

In the words of Lauryn Hill, “It could all be so simple.” Let’s be real for one second. Making friendships in your 20’s is hard AF. It doesn’t make sense and to be honest, I’m a bit embarrassed to be writing this. Nice people deserve friends and I’m nice, right? I wish it were that simple... As a career woman in her mid-20’s living in one of the largest and greatest cities in the world (LA), I have had to confront a hard truth - making friends is hard.  I always assumed I would have my “tribe” around me. I...

We’ve all been there - something doesn’t go as planned or someone close to us lets us down and it leaves us with this gut feeling of discouragement. How did this happen? Why did this happen? And most importantly, how can I ensure this doesn’t happen again? These are all reasonable thoughts and you should never feel ashamed for having them.  Understand the Source The first part of overcoming discouragement is first understanding why you feel this way. What is the source of this pain? Did something not go as you wanted? Did the result of the situation cause you...

Have you ever taken one of those personality quizzes on Buzzfeed? They tell you what type of person you are and who you’re going to end up with based on how you answer a series of questions. An even more extensive form of these personality quizzes are personality assessments like the Myers-Briggs test or the Enneagram test. These each answer a series of in-depth questions to understand the makeup of your personality, which will then indicate how you make decisions and accept/give love.  Do you know what each of these quizzes/assessments have in common? They look at the basic principles...

If you are a person who does anything that requires any type of focus, the chances are that you will experience burnout at some point.  So what exactly is burnout?  According to Help guide, “Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands.” The difficulty with burnout is that you often don’t see it coming until it’s there because you are too busy trying to do whatever is causing the burnout to begin with. Burnout feels a lot like falling  into...

The world of a multi-passionate person is intense! It is full of creativity, exhaustion, and a lot of insecurity over what you are doing in your life. For those who don’t know, a multi-passionate person is someone who is called to do many things. You may be in school studying for one thing, but your heart is also leading you to do something else. These two often have nothing in common, at least on the surface level.  Because of this, a multi-passionate person gets a lot of criticism for not being focused or committed enough to one thing. (newsflash: Don’t...